Do I have to give my single friends a plus one?

September 7, 2017

Dear PB Pro,

My fiancé and I are planning a wedding on a strict budget. While we don’t want to be tacky or rude, we just don’t know if we can afford to give our non-married friends and family a plus one. I know other brides face this problem, so what’s the solution?

– Plus None

Dear Plus None,

You’re certainly not alone with this problem, and you do have options. First, make a clear-cut decision on which significant others warrant an invite. Typically, this includes spouses, fiancé(e)s, and any long-term, live-in partners. Once you draw your line in the sand, stick with it across the board, pausing only to — perhaps — make an exception for any single friends or family in the bridal party.

If other single folks are upset by not being offered a plus one, be open to explaining your reasons to help them understand that it’s not personal. Some brides and grooms even invite their single friends to bring a date to the dancing portion of the evening, which is a nice compromise: they get to slow dance with their sweetie, but you don’t have to foot the dinner bill! In the end, remember it’s your wedding and you only have to invite those you see as an integral part of your special day.

— The PB Pro

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